Create A Charisma Between Your Conduct And Physique

hen a new baby is born, there's a grin on the face of everybody associated and that's on account of the sentiments attached with the new hopes and joy that the child would bring in, in due course of time. A mother bears tremendous hardships and laborial pains just for the sake of her fledgling that would grow into a complete being and bring laurels to the name and fame of the family through his glorious deeds. Hence a righteous and earnest child is the apple of the eye and the ultimate dream of every parent. But what is the criterion for the aforesaid righteousness?

Nothing precise is sure indicative of the desired traits. Gone are the days when great people were born in an air pronounced by lightening and theomania. Padhya Chudamani describes the arcane birth of Gautam Buddha as follows,"...in the Lumbini grove branches produced flocks of lotuses as if to see a glimpse of Siddhartha... huge jets of water proportional to palm trees emerged out of earth briskly as if Sarpgan (snake folk) kinsmen of Sheshnaga have assembled to salute the lord... and the whole atmosphere was filled with an aroma." But in today's epoch nothing of this sort occurs. Every human is born in a public hospital. There is no sign of specialty. It's the basic fundamentals pertaining to realities of life, which count. These are spoon-fed to a child from his early childhood days, and, culminate into his ensuing qualities. But how could one expect the above from a raw human being with a crude mind unless proper and suitable environment is provided to the same?

The question pinpoints towards an effort to guarantee elementary guidance regarding as to differentiate between what is right and what is wrong in life. But if not possible completely then at least to a certain predetermined level. This would in turn lead to the formation of a rigid frame of personality. Just like loose particles of dust and gravel accumulate over a period of ages and metamorphose into a solid cluster of rock. Provided the absence of contingency or situational factors like negative reference groups, the receptacle remains as it is, and gets tender over years. But here come the entry of deviants and so is our toddler averted towards truancy.

 Personality traditionally referred to how people influence others through their external appearances or actions. A downtrodden might disagree to this. He would rather state that what's the use of being charming unless one is wealthy, and that a poor person should be practical and prosaic. But for an academician personality includes the external appearance and behavior, the inner awareness of self as a permanent organizing force, and the organization of measurable traits, both inner and outer.

The major determinants of personality of an individual may be biological, cultural, social or situational factors. The biological factors include heredity, brain and physical features; that of culture include beliefs, values and the likes; social ones include family, socialization and the identification process of self as an entity by an individual in turn trying to replicate himself as his father or mother; and situational factors is a mixed mélange of environment, knowledge, skill and language.

...Wearing a torn robe, a Lilliputian robust man with naked feet and scorched hair roamed about the whole day, be it, market, streets, court or friend's houses...." Such was the strange silhouette of the enigmatic personality. But who was he? He was no crazy vagabond but the very own world famous Sophist Socrates. The same saint who raised many an eyebrows while he questioned ignorance, conceit rootlessness and bigotry. Eventually he gathered huge fan following as he spent his life musing for truth, its promotion, and imparting knowledge about it, ripping off the hitherto obscuring veils. It was the beauty of Socrates' simplicity and the purity of his style, which made him eye-catching for the masses, which even his wretched countenance could not sideline.

A charming dandy could well be equally popular with men and women for some reasons but for the rest he might not be of much importance. He would just be yet another sugar coated candy, which would melt in a short span...a fiasco! The delicacy of old wine mellowed over years can't be replaced by it. The wine here is symbolical of a ripened personality made tender under the influence of severe contingency factors and conditioned by the accidental ones accruing on the brink.

An ideal personality is the dynamic organization within the individual of those psychological systems that determine his unique adjustment to his environment. Or according to Sigmund Freud, there should be equilibrium between the three colliding structures within human mind- the id (congenital and inherited psycho traits), the ego (Reality oriented part of thinking), the superego (noblest thoughts). These parts of the mind are primarily responsible for originating human actions, reactions and modifications. There should be a proper reconciliation between one's thought and the activity done. Thought without action is abortion. Action without thought is folly.

The happiest man is one whose thinking and action are coordinated. The happier a man is, the greater is his Charisma. Jawaharlal Nehru was a perfect example. "Sincere, disinterested in personal power, Nehru combines the dreamer and the man of action. He loves books and the arts but is equally at home in the rough and tumble."-The 100 Most Important People, Donald Robinson. A wretched Asoka might not be one.